Self esteem (do you value and love yourself?) is a component of success.  You don’t have to have self esteem to succeed but it helps you have faith in yourself and will help you keep moving forward when you have set a goal.  Self esteem controls to some extent how you feel and if you are using visualization, whether for it’s own sake, or for the law of attraction, self esteem will help you create richer visualizations, visualizations that you can believe because you believe you are worthy of them.

How you value others affects your self esteem.  You can’t just sit in front of a mirror like Stuart Smalley and say over and over, “I like me.”  That’s not it, rather it is more holistic, it involves an appreciation for others, for pets, for the things that you have in your life now as well as for yourself.  It’s been said that you need to love what you have in order to get what you love.  That’s a strange statement but it is true and goes to the judge that sits in everyone’s head.  More on the “judge” in a moment.

Always speak words that show that you care for yourself as well as others.  The words coming from your mouth have great power in your mind and in the minds of others.  The words are suggestions that plant themselves and are responsible for feelings and responses that you have no idea about.  Just a thought there and something can trigger it.  Sure you have a lot of control but sometimes these things come in under the radar.  Your self-esteem will help you deal with these thoughts and emotions so be sure to speak words that always builds it.

As to speaking to others, your own ears hear these words as well.  And while the speech may be directed towards someone else it goes into your mind as well.  There is a great scripture that I believe has everything to do with this: “Judge not lest ye be judged” (Mathew 7:1) .  Your own little judge is sitting in your head and if you apply harsh standards to those around you, your judge is listening and will apply the same standard to you.  This can kill your self esteem so listen to your words and the thoughts in your head and seek moderation, seek to find the good, learn to look for how to make things better and what is already good about them.

So give yourself and everyone a break and don’t be so judgemental.  Learn to build up with your words, learn to inspire, everyone deserves that and you deserve it too.

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How can failure lead you to success? Great inventors like Thomas Edison talked about ideas like failing forward. Great baseball players strike out more than the hit home runs, new products fail more often than the succeed. John Maxwell has a book called “Failing Forward.”   If you Google “Failing Forward” there are more than 52 million results.

All human advancement is built on failure

If you are learning new skills, exploring new markets, entering a new sport, no matter what you are doing… don’t be discouraged when you don’t do it perfectly.

Sometimes a toxic environment whether home, or the wrong friends will taint your thinking and cause you to believe that you shouldn’t pursue your dream because you are not doing it perfectly, because you go out the first day and have no sales to show, because you struck out at bat, because you broke on the high note, because, because, because… Whose voice is that in your head telling you to stop. Whose voice is telling you you are not good enough.

Listen to the voice of your heart, listen to your dreams; aren’t your dreams a message from God? Aren’t your dreams sacred communication to you from the universe? Whose voice should you listen to?

I recall scriptures from Habbakuk: “…be utterly amazed, for I am going to do something in your days that you would not believe, even if you were told.” This is how our dreams are. We may have difficulty believing them: “me the top sales-performer?” “Me, valedictorian?” “Me the new manager?” “Me write a book?” Learn not to question those urgings from within they are God seeking to work through you.

Again from Habbakuk: “Write the vision and make it plain upon tables that he may run who reads it.”  I’ve always loved that scripture.  Write down those things from your heart and read them, run to carry them out.  Not every effort will produce results, you may fail more than you succeed especially at first, but continue.

As always Kalil Gibran has something good to say: “Faith is a knowledge within the heart, beyond the reach of proof.”  This is what we are talking about here at the core of this post is the element of faith.  This doesn’t have to be religious if you don’t believe in God.  It’s about you, have the knowledge within your heart.

Failure: The Secret To Success

Failure. The mere thought can paralyze even the most heroic thinkers and keep great ideas off the drawing board. But is failing really that bad? We get an inside look at the mishaps of Honda racers, designers and engineers to learn how they draw upon failure to motivate them to succeed. From poor color choices to blown race engines, these risk-taking individuals provide an honest look at what most people fear most. Watch the film and discover the upside of failure.

Failure is not an end rather it is a message, try something else – achieve your dream…  Failure is not you, it is a message, try something else – achieve your dream…