What do you want to accomplish in life?  Is there a part of you at odds with this goal.  We call that part the inner jerk.  The jerk was given it’s voice possibly by your parents who in their misguided desire to control you said a whole lot of things that just weren’t right.  But they were right for the jerk and now he has taken all of them and a lot of stuff from other places and he is out to get you.

inner jerk

The inner jerk is the anti-conscience of your thought process. It is the tiny voice inside your brain that says, “you’re not good enough. You’re not pretty enough. No, you can’t do that. You’re a loser. You’ll never amount to anything.” Sometimes it makes a home inside of your brain. It might even be the kind of jerk who makes frequent visits to your thoughts.

We all have an inner jerk that feeds us negative thoughts about us, but we don’t have to listen to its nasty comments. There is a way to defeat the inner jerk within ourselves.

1. Establish a Goal

Set your sites on a goal, something you want to accomplish in your life. Envision yourself achieving this goal and enjoying the rewards of your success. This will inspire you to work towards meeting that goal and it will also give you hope. At the same time, be open minded and be realistic about things. The path to success is a rocky path and you need to be prepared and fully equipped for the trip. There will be times when you will stumble and fall. But, don’t look at your falls as failures. Learn from the mistakes you made and establish a guideline on what you plan to do differently in the future. You learn and grow from your failures and you become a stronger person. Most importantly, always keep your eye on the prize. When you are focused and committed to the pursuit of your goal, you give your inner jerk no chance to hurl insults at you.

2. Get Involved

Involve yourself in social groups and/or professional organizations, like Toastmasters, your local theatre community, a book club, or any leisurely activity you enjoy doing when you’re not working. When you get involved in any activity, you give yourself the chance to develop a new skill and to meet like-minded people. That is how lasting friendships form. Also, your confidence builds up when you learn a new skill.

3. Surround Yourself With a Network of Supportive Friends

Choose your friends wisely. Surround yourself with people who are trustworthy, positive, encouraging and open-minded. Avoid people who are pessimistic, overly competitive, jealous and superficial. These people will only bring you down, not build you up.

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Defeat your inner jerk, he is not real anyway and you just don’t need the grief. 

 Maintaining motivation will kill the jerk as will attaining confidence.  Everyone needs confidence and you can discover how to get and maintain it here.

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Everyone faces obstacles in pursuing their dreams, and the tough economic situation we’re facing can certainly put some serious obstacles in your path. Between job insecurity, shrinking investments, plummeting home values, and rising prices, you may be wound up pretty tight!

However, the difference between success and failure lies in how you let your obstacles affect you. You can let fear paralyze you into inaction, or you can take the bull by the horns and come out on top.

If you confidently seek solutions for your challenges and take action to overcome them, success will be yours!

Confidence is Critical

Confidence will enable you to successfully compete for jobs, overcome stressful situations, and develop lasting and healthy relationships. Take a look at the successful people around you. One thing that stands out about these folks is that they have confidence and they know how to use it. The good news is, even if you don’t have unbeatable confidence right now, you can develop it!

Do you feel that you could use some extra confidence in the following areas?

✴ Public Speaking
✴ Interviews
✴ Business Meetings
✴ Networking
✴ Personal Relationships
✴ Dating

THE UNBEATABLE CONFIDENCE COURSE

This course will give you the specific action steps you can take to overcome the mental obstacles that are holding you back as well as gain the self-confidence you deserve. You’ll soon discover exercises you can do every day to strengthen your confidence and, before you know it, you’ll be the one people envy! Take The Boosting Confidence and Self Esteem course and make it a part of your life.

Your Style

Your new style, how do you set out to create a new style? Will it really boost your confidence?

From time to time, we all can benefit from a style makeover. As time passes, the same hair-do, wearing the same clothing, and dressing in the same style can become boring.

 Following a fashion trend occasionally refreshes your appearance and keeps you looking attractive in an updated style. Regardless of what change you make, a new style can boost your confidence. When you look good, you feel good and more ready to take on the world!

 Consider these easy ways to boost your confidence by periodically making some changes with your style:

Get a new hairstyle or cut. Nothing rejuvenates your style and boosts your confidence like a totally different look with your hair.  If you normally wear your hair long and straight, consider a short, curly style.  On a related note, you might even consider making a switch in hair color.

Wearing clothing in the season’s most popular colors and prints. When you bring your look up to the present, it’s refreshing and serves to give your self-confidence a real lift.

A new shirt or blouse in the season’s most comfortable fabric can give you that up-to-date look.

Although it’s best to avoid buying an entire wardrobe every season, purchasing one or two carefully selected clothing items in the newest colors and prints can freshen up your appearance.

Accessorize to establish your style. Accessories tend to be less pricey than clothing, yet make a powerful statement in terms of your appearance. Be bold in your accessories and you’ll feel bolder as well.  With a scarf in a trendy color, a necklace in the newest style, or earrings that glisten brand-new, your attitude and self-esteem will rise when you add these small updates to your overall style.

For men, consider classic cufflinks and ties in the latest prints and colors to express your fashion sense with accessories.  With accessories, you can take a basic wardrobe and bring some real character to it to show off your sparkling personality

Take care of your complexion. Regardless of whether you’re a man or a woman, you stand to benefit greatly by taking care of your face and skin.  Because your face is so integral to your appearance, your facial tone expresses one facet of your overall style.

Consider getting a facial every 3 months to revive your face, tone up your complexion and refresh your overall style.  In turn, you’ll experience a real increase in feeling good about yourself.

Polished shoes and ironed clothing are the best style accessories of all. Something as simple as polishing your shoes will bring a spring to your step. Taking a few extra minutes to iron your clothing brings crispness to your style that adds to your feelings of confidence

Details like this can earn you the accolades of being a “sharp-dressed” man or woman. Others take notice in a positive way and you earn respect simply with your sharp appearance

Making some simple style changes in your appearance will rejuvenate your overall look. When your style is updated, you feel revived. Bring your look alive this season by trying some of these easy style updates. You’ll look better and your confidence will bloom.

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by Michael Griffin

Hope and faith are necessary parts of the law of attraction.

True hope is one of the most motivating emotions going for you.  I used the word emotions to describe hope, but there is more to hope than that.  Hope is a real thing not just an emotion.

Hope is not wishing, often people use the word that way but a true understanding and appreciation of the word will bring a power to you that you won’t otherwise have.  Often when people give up they say to themselves “I hope things will get better.”  Here “hope” is used synonymously with “wish.”  Wish carries no power behind it, hope on the other hand in it’s true sense does have power.  I am talking of using hope as a verb where it means to look forward to something with desire and reasonable confidence.

Why should you hope when there is no evidence?  This sounds almost like a subject for church, doesn’t it.  And when taught correctly in church, hope is an active and real force in your life.  Many churches fail to teach the power of such things as hope and faith and wind up putting them in the realm of wishes and fantasy.

Wallace Wattles use of hope and faith

We know that Wallace Wattles had a religious background and if you read The Science of Getting Rich you will see this.  But Wattles, correctly, recognizes that hope and faith are not just things for church but are active forces to use in your life.  In the same way that he doesn’t use the words “law of attraction,” he doesn’t push hope and faith and yet the precepts are there in every chapter.

Hope and Faith when used correctly are forces at work in everyone’s life, not just for those who are religious.  These are not religious terms.  Consider:

“That ye may be the children of your Father which is in heaven: for he maketh his sun to rise on the evil and on the good, and sendeth rain on the just and on the unjust (Math 5:45 KJV).

Hope and Faith are the same, just like the sun and rain, they are forces in our lives that work for all, for the just and unjust (whatever you consider just and unjust to mean).

Wattles talks about holding your vision of the thing you want in the formless substance, to see it, to visualize it, to get your emotions into the visions.  This brings you into vibration with the thing (or desired outcome) and attracts it to you.  Your mind will collect data and at some point you will know what to do and then you should act.

This “Law of Attraction” is of the same stuff as described by a proper use of the terms “faith” and “hope.”

Hope, actively hope, and have faith – a calm assurance, that the things you are looking for, that you are holding in the unseen substance are yours and you have received them.  Soon they will catch up to you in the physical world.

Use hope and faith everyday in your life by seeing the things inside that you are creating outside in your world.

At our Law of Attraction Mastery page you will find the several stages of learning about the law of attraction that will lead to mastery.

Here are three ideas to help your understanding:

1. Visualize your outcome. This could be a thing or the way you’d like a situation to turn out. See it in as much detail as you can. For example if you want a new car sit in it, hear the sound of the tight fitting doors closing, smell the leather of the interior, hear the rich bass from the radio. As you drive feel the acceleration. You get the idea, make as much detail as you can.
2. Give thanks that you have received the object of step one. Feel a deep gratitude and realize that it is yours. Wallace Wattles, in The Science of Getting Rich, says: “by thought the thing is created, by action you receive.” And this brings us to step 3.
3. By action you receive: as you go through your day let the memory of your visualization come into mind, no need for continued meditation, but just let the thought pass through. Soon you’ll also be getting thoughts about the actions you need to take. When these thoughts come take the action, don’t be timid, take the action with confidence.

The law of attraction was popularized by The Secret but you need a book like The Science of Getting Rich to learn the more precise details of it’s use. At the end of the video you will receive information about links to the free E-Book and free Audio-Book of The Science of Getting Rich also in the resources sidebar and the link to a free E-Book of Bob Proctor’s You Were Born Rich.

You will also learn of additional teaching about mastering the law of attraction. You can also visit The Master The Law Of Attraction page and learn more about how to Master The Law of Attraction. These materials will jump-start your use of the law of attraction so that you can truly master it.

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